When making a change in your life, often people tell you the first step is trying something small. So if you want to start training for a marathon, the first step is to get out for a 5-10 minute run. You can build on that 5-10 minute run, once you realize you can get over that first hurdle. And I’m not arguing with that point. It’s very important to acknowledge.
If you want to start flossing, commit to flossing one tooth everyday. Want to start writing, commit to 100 words a day. By doing so, you will build up your practice until it becomes habit, making it a positive routine. But here’s where I have a little difference of opinion. While I think these small steps are important in making change, I think the first step is admitting that you need to change. This is easier said than done.
Sure, in the flossing example, it’s very easy to admit that you should change the habit. Flossing is better than not flossing. But some changes won’t be nearly as easy to recognize or admit needs altering. In fact, it’s the nature of habits to become so ingrained as we age, that they become second-nature. We don’t even realize they’re an issue.
Changing that perspective, however, is one of the most important things you can do when altering a bad habit or removing yourself from a terrible routine, whether it’s sitting for 8 hours straight everyday or quitting that job that you hate. Once you admit it, you can change the way you view it, which allows you to figure out how to change that behavior. Don’t believe me?
Take a look then at a study published a couple years ago regarding luck. Now luck is something most people would say you either have it or you don’t. Those who are unlucky, continue to get more unlucky reaffirming their beliefs. On the other hand, those who think they’re lucky, go on without assuming it was luck.
This researcher, Richard Wiseman found that unlucky people tend to have more anxiety, and a detailed focus on specifics of an event – good or bad. Lucky people had more of a care-free attitude, in general, and more prone and open to new possibilities. But, most interesting, Wiseman concluded that luck is a skill that can be learned.
“My research revealed that lucky people generate good fortune via four basic principles. They are skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities, make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition, create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations, and adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good.”
Imagine that. Luck, the one thing most people would never imagine could change, is simply something that can be altered based on how you attack life. But will it change on its own? Not likely, outside of maybe winning the lottery, which if you’ve looked at in any detail you know that it also doesn’t necessarily guarantee a lucky future.
But the first thing you must do, in order to change your luck is to realize that you can. And that goes with nearly anything you want to do next in your life, moving forward. There are tons of ways to fix the problem you’re having, especially if it’s not life-and-death. All you need to do first is change your perspective of the problem. Once that’s accomplished, then that first small step can take place.