The Dr. Seuss classic, Oh the Places You’ll Go is one of my favorite books to read my young child. It’s an amazing synopsis of what a kid can emotionally expect to experience in the future. In just a few pages it captures the ambition, thrill, excitement, boredom, trepidation and isolation of life.
So many of the lines are pertinent, even for adults. It’s this one, discussing loneliness, that always stands out to me:
Whether you like it or not,
Alone will be something
You’ll be quite a lot.”
It’s true. As we become young adults, and move into our careers, it’s this isolation that we try to avoid at all costs. It can often lead us to spend more than we want. It’s often why we go out to the clubs, restaurants or extravagant outings. It’s often why we purchase the nicer car, the bigger home, the better jewelry.
We want to show people we have value so they will want to remain near us. We want to outrun – or outspend – this loneliness.
As you take your initial steps towards financial independence, don’t be surprised if you find yourself lonely at times. It’s okay. You’ve removed most of those shallow attempts to avoid loneliness, in order to create actual change to your finances and wealth.
Trying to attain financial independence is just as much a psychological battle as an economic one. You’re fighting against your demons, your emotions and your past to do what’s fiscally responsible for your future.
This isolates you from those that spend for now, trying to fill the void.
Get comfortable with being lonely. It’s often the difference between someone that spends and someone that saves.
Like Dr. Seuss says, it’s not unusual to feel loneliness as an adult.
You’re unique, though, in how you’re attacking it.